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The six things you should never send via text, according to psychologist


With our mobile phones almost an extension of our arms, it sometimes just feels easier to send a text instead of making a phone call.

But psychologist Francesca Tighinean says there are six things we should never send in an SMS – and she explains why in a viral TikTok video.

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Psychologist Francesca Tighinean reveals the six things you should never text someone. Credit: TikTok

1. Complaints

The first on her list in the video, which has had more than 50,000 views on TikTok, is complaints.

Whether it’s about a hard day at the office, or whining about a family member, most people are guilty of complaining over text – but this is the first thing Tighinean recommends we should stop doing.

“Without hearing your voice, someone does not know how big or small of a deal something is to you,” she said.

Complaining over text is something that people related to in the comment section of the video.

“Me complaining every five minutes,” said one person.

2. Insults

Tighinean also advised to avoid sending insults over text.

“You might regret what you say in the future and it’s written there forever,” she said.

Tighinean says we should never insult someone over text. Credit: Tim Robberts/Getty Images

3. Apologies

It’s difficult to swallow your pride and apologise in person, which is why many people prefer to send words of regret in a text.

But Tighinean encourages apologising in person, and has an alternative suggestion for a potential SMS.

“Instead, try, ‘I owe you an apology. Can we talk tonight?’”

4. Bombshells

Have you ever been hit with a bombshell via text?

Sometimes all you can do is stare at your phone in disbelief, wondering what to do next.

That’s why Tighinean says we should never send a bombshell SMS – good or bad.

It’s never fun to receive a bombshell text message. Credit: Klaus Vedfelt/Getty Images

“Even positive ones like ‘I think I’m in love with you’ are better dropped in person,” she said.

5. Troubling behaviour

When you’re chatting to a mate and they mention something that concerns you, it can be hard to resist follow-up questions.

But Tighinean suggests to save the questioning for another time.

“Give them a chance to explain (later) without relying on their texting skills,” she said.

6. Secrets

If you’ve got a secret, you can’t trust your phone to keep it.

Just like the insults, what you send is there forever, and anyone could see it, Tighinean says.

“Always consider the risk that your text message might end up in front of the wrong person,” she said.

Many people in the comments agreed with the psychologist.

“These are all great tips! This is why I’m not generally a fan of texting when dating/getting to know someone. A lot of words are misunderstood,” said one.

Another person pointed to the worst SMS you could receive – “all six in one big wall of text”.

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